Did you know research suggests that the more a person posts on social media the less ego strength and self-esteem they have? Most people who post frequently and often are looking for engagement which could be used as fuel for validation. Social media has been the biggest life changer for everyone since the cell phone and world wide web became accessible to the public. Here’s a quick rundown of some key issues we see in consumers…
· Workplace productivity has declined so much that business owners have incorporated social media policies to review in new employee orientation/trainings
· Sleep deprivation-this is seen specifically in teens but has affected consumers of all walks of life
· Academic performance has declined amongst students
· Safety Risks- People are walking with their heads down entering traffic to cross the street. Watching videos, and scrolling timelines while driving in traffic
There’s this phenomenon called Absence Presence which says a person can be physically present without being aware of their environment. This is especially true when families gather for family events or even eating at the dinner table. Families are detaching due to the distractions on their hand-held computer devices. No addiction is worth losing your family over. Have you been out to a bar or night club in the past two years? People are face down in their bright phones throughout the night while sitting in the VIP section of an establishment. It’s pretty horrid to watch how deaf to reality people are.
We can identify addiction in a few ways, but one of the most effective ways is to remove the external stimuli the in which the individual is addicted. If there is a physiological response after removing the stimulus such as increased heart rate, sweaty palms, heavy breathing, anxiety in the form of worry or anger, sadness, crying, etc. These are classic withdrawal symptoms, and these are clear signs that an addiction is present. In behavioral health hospitals, when patience are admitted into care, phones are removed from their persons for the privacy and protection of other patience. I’ve seen teenagers throw full blown temper tantrums over their electronic devices so much so that they needed to be physically restrained for fear of hurting themselves or someone else.
Here is another scary thought. Many people suffer from this phenomenon of Online Distribution Effect. This is a person who spends a dangerous amount of time on their electronic devices that they neglect their basic needs such as eating and sleeping regularly. People are actually losing years on their lives to satisfy their interests and curiosities. The fear of missing out (FOMO) is a thing and people must know the tea.
Here’s how we can fix it.
Remove the stimulus! Take away the phones, take away the video games, take away whatever you believe is the external stimuli the individual is dependent on. There will be some push-back. Those physiological responses will be noticeable. If building discipline and boundaries is the goal, do your best to go on a reset period where you choose to distance yourself or detach from what you are dependent on. You can do this. The longer an individual stays away from the stimuli the easier it gets. People know that they are addicted to their phones, but do not know how productive and efficient they could be in life without the dependence of social media and the world wide web.
Most cellular devices have a screen-time app that allows you to track your activities. Use that application to monitor where you direct most of your attention and by doing this you will become more self-aware of your behaviors. This has been proven to be effective with weight loss. When people log or journal their calories daily, they eat healthier and in moderate portions which results in weight loss.
When posting content ask yourself, what is the point of me putting this out there for the world to see? Is it for attention, awareness, helpful information, or for branding? If your posts cause you to have any anxiety for any reason, this could be a key indicator you should probably think twice before you submit it. Social media addiction will be in the next Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders with details on the criterion. Treatment for this addiction is much needed along with gaming addictions. Step number one to any recovery is admitting you have a problem.
Are you addicted to social media?
By Jere’My Rankins MA LPC
Kevin Samuels has come to large fame by giving unfiltered relationship advice while doing live consultations on the great World Wide Web. I agree with many of his controversial views and opinions but not his delivery, but then again, I understand what gets viewers attention and holds it. People like drama. Let’s talk briefly about what a high-power man is according to a recent Google search I did (https://thepowermoves.com/high-quality-men/)
Some of the characteristics include
Both lists could be longer, but hopefully you get the draft. I have said this time, after time, after time… Men Historically pursue younger and more attractive partners while women/females select the more secure and safe partner. Safety and security are the equivalent to financial and physical relief, two worries the female or woman do not have to concern themselves with. These are basic survival standards in human evolution. This goes back to the cave man days. The literature teaches us this in social sciences on the higher education level.
I say all this to tell you, that Kevin Samuels has over a million followers for the sustenance of his content and validity to what he speaks to. There is also the drama and the rude element to his presentation in which people gravitate to.
I would disagree with Kevin on his perception of beauty and how the global beauty standard measures attractiveness in anyone. For example, he rates Beyonce Knowles at an 8 while Kelly Roland is a 10. I would respectfully disagree without placing my personal judgment on the matter which I find demeaning to women. Although, the mass amount of high value men do not seek out the Lizzo’s of the world they choose to pursue the Melania’s and the Beyonce’s if available. Beauty remains in the eye of the beholder. I disagree with his assessment ratings for women when they come on his live streams.
One very crucial question that is asked consistently throughout his broadcasts is, “What do you bring to the table if you would like a high value man who earns enough money to sustain the lifestyle that you desire?
I will close with saying this…
Most women desire to be married to a lifelong partner. With marriage comes significant sacrifice in some capacity. Every seven years a human being changes in some aspect of their life, sometimes for better and others for the worst. Unfortunately, the harsh reality of love is that it comes with conditions. If you were to challenge me on this then reflect on the last time you felt in-love with someone…Why did the two of you break up? You or the other person broke one of your conditions of love. We can debate that all day, but at the end of the discussion one thing remains when selecting a life-long partner. Those who hold strong core values have standards for who we want in our lives. Your standards may differ from mine. We will all make mistakes and errors in judgment to find exactly what we want. That is the benefits of learned experiences. No matter how powerful an individual is, be careful who you allow to influence your values.
By: Jere’My Rankins MA, LPC
Is Telehealth the new Standard for HealthCare?
I must admit, as a practicing behavioral health professional who meets with clients both in my office and in the community, I struggle with the practice of telemedicine/telehealth. I am able to identify my personal biases on the topic of face-to-face mental health services vs. telehealth, but I wanted to share the concerns I have with the evolution of the way medicine and mental health professionals practice moving forward.
I would like to stay within my scope of knowledge and outline some of the most common pros and cons of the practice of telehealth services from a master’s level practitioners’ perspective before giving my personal opinion on the practice.
Telehealth services have been around for a while now. I can remember having a discussion with a supervisor early on in my career about the confidentiality concerns, laws, and regulations revolving around the use of telemedicine with a nurse practitioner we were teaming up with.
Here are some highlights of some of the most common downfalls for telehealth…
I read an article on LinkedIn recently that said 83% of patients want to continue using telemedicine services even after the pandemic. I know the public wants it. I am not sure people consider what goes into the practice of traditional and non-traditional talk therapy and medicine practices. There is no possible way to get an assessment of the overall presentation of an individual simply from a video conference call. I am not 100% against the practice, I just don’t recommend it.
Here comes the bias.
Yes, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor here in the state of Texas, but I have the background in community clinical psychology. In counseling psychology, the literature teaches us to focus on the non-verbal cues that a client communicates during the therapy session. Those cues may be the identifiers that encourage the clinician to probe deeper on a specific topic that may come up during the session. In person, face-to-face therapy is most effective when both client and therapist want to share the space to work on presenting problems and concerns together. If a client chooses to stay at home when capable of going into the office for their appointments, this concerns me. Given the choice to either come into the office or do virtual appointments, most clients would choose the option that makes therapy most convenient and comfortable for them. I push back on this as a therapist. Are you motivated for change? Are you willing to put in the work to feel better or level-up? At times, therapy can become challenging and extremely uncomfortable. I prefer to help my clients through these moments in each session until I feel confident in their mental health prior to doing follow up virtual appointments.
In closing, Telehealth is the new way for practicing behavioral health, but it will not be the standard of practice at Minor to Major LLC. We take pride in wanting to engage with our clients on a personal level that digs deeper than surface matter. By recommending in-person appointments here at our offices we encourage clients to be more invested in the recovery process. Clinicians who prefer to practice in home virtual sessions due to the cost efficiency of the services rendered or the convenience of the practice are becoming comfortable in their respective professions.
Allow me to clarify: If the reasons for rendering the services via telehealth are unrelated to some of the recommended reasons for using the virtual therapy platforms, this is lazy counseling and dare I say Malpractice on the behalf of the clinician. Let us not be lazy with your healing and recovery, let’s be intentional.
-by Jere’My Rankins MA LPC
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